We desperately want our happily ever after and strive for it relentlessly. After all, how can one relax in the here and now, when one ‘knows‘ there is so much to do in order to get “there”?
It is no wonder then that we feel trapped in discontent and doomed to be so for all time.
The happy ending I speak about here is symbolical, it could be anything really.
Anything that promises everlasting happiness: financial independence, success, true love, inner peace or all of the above.
The fallacy though is that no achievement can give one inner peace.
Euphoria: Maybe, Happiness: Maybe, but Inner Peace: No.
Our lives end up being a vicious circle of living in anticipation, euphoria, discontent and even depression.
• When we seek something with a vengeance, we live in anticipation.
• When we gain what we seek, we live in euphoria.
• When we don’t gain what we seek, we think we have lost something and live in sadness, discontent and later, depression.
Don’t get me wrong, it is fun to strive and go for what we want, but only as long as we do so for fun and not in order to validate who we are.
When we strive toward a goal simply for the fun of it, we are suddenly okay with failing: failing the job interview; failing the promotion; failing to start your own venture; failing to find love.
The paradox is that once you are alright with failing you hardly ever fail. By being okay with failing, you took the stress out of your effort, making it an effort out of honesty, sincerity and pure quality.
However, It is only once one fails and are still finds oneself standing that we begin to see that we are beyond the constant need for achievement and validation.
Right place, at the right time
Beyond failure lies freedom and bliss… There is a treasure, eternal in time and infinite in depth that is alive within us.
On feeling it, perspective shifts and the way the world is seen changes.
Life is bigger than your life or my life. Life is each and every’s life interwoven in a complex matrix that results and manifests in what is best for each.
We then begin to see that we really have nothing to lose nor anything to gain… and that the only way to really live is in surrender… Surrender to the infinite that is greater than us, any of us…
This is why some of us roll through life easily, are at the right place at the right time often, while others struggle every step of the way.
The universe knows what is the best role for us with respect to the one life, and in our best role, no one is better than us. We are precious, unique, immortal and indispensable.
There is great lightness and joy in this surrender. One that is impossible to find when enmeshed in the world and when we think we control every bit of our life and future. Then, all we can be is what we can imagine – “limited”.
The truth is that we control nothing and when we don’t see that, we don’t see the magic in the universe, and how it rushes in to help us through every tidal wave. Our path is not one to be carved out ourselves. It is as the universe shows you one step at a time. This can be very well elucidated with the lifting of a thick fog, and how slowly you begin to see the way one step at a time.
It is our work to be simply and completely present as we joyfully take that step, knowing, trusting and rejoicing in the universal intelligence.
Obstacle to being in the flow with the universe:
There is one obstacle to surrender though – The thinking, intelligent Mind.
The heart knows the truth when it hears it, up until the mind begins to reason with a “Ummm, but…”
Surrender requires the heart which already knows. The thinking mind which is great at solving a crossword puzzle and making atom bombs revolts at being considered unnecessary here. It wants to help. The mind cannot fathom that it simply cannot do anything in the matter.
It cannot deal with surrender to an “external party”. It still thinks it has and deserves a say and constantly will try to crown you “The Master of Life”.
True Love:
This is especially true when it comes to the matters of the heart. The mind cannot control when or why a person feels affection for another.
Most of the times, people don’t even know themselves what they like about a certain person, what made them fall for that particular person and at which point they realized that they have found is ‘the one’.
This is because that was not a rational decision that the mind made.
That particular person had no real competitive advantage over others, that made the mind go “yes, that is exactly what i was looking for…”
The truth is that a salsa dancer, a great writer, a good poet, a melodious singer has no more an advantage over another person who has no such obvious talent. Such talents mean nothing when they are not backed up by the being of the person. A lack of self-assurance, a touch of judgement or insecurity has been the falling of many a multi-talented being.
We begin to love unconsciously …
… when we being to bask in the being of another person who allows us to be
… just Be… whoever we are and whoever we wish to be
… when we feel accepted exactly as we are, without even the need for minor touch ups to hide our imperfections, and with someone who sees these touch ups and just smiles
… with someone who sees the imperfections as perfect and does not judge
… with someone who accepts even herself/himself as he/she is without judgment
This is the kind of person who radiates peace and can truly love. It is a joy to just be with such a person as you know in your heart they are not evaluating or judging you as you speak. You are free to be…
This is who we begin to be when we live every moment in acceptance and surrender to the universal intelligence.
